I used to avoid sewing knits. I didn’t have a great reason for this, other than that I was more comfortable with woven fabrics and knew more about how to work with them. They just seemed more versatile.
What changed my mind was discovering that I could whip up a dress in three hours. Or a skirt in one. And then I’d wear the hell out of them because they were so comfortable.
What kind of sorcery was this? Where had knits been all my life? Why had I written them off for so long?
The answer wasn’t that I was scared of them. The reason is that I’d told myself that knits “weren’t for me.”
I had no good reason for this. It’s just something that I had convinced myself of, and the longer I believed it, the more I stuck to my story.
This was a weird realization for me, because I love learning new things. I am not the type to wring my hands about my perceived abilities instead of just trying something out. For me, learning and growing is what makes sewing such a joy and I’ve learned to take failures in stride.
But still, we all have blindspots about what we can do, or even what we want to do.
We all draw these imaginary lines in the sand around certain skills. I’ve seen honts of it here on the blog, in your comments.
Sometimes these lines make a lot of sense. Maybe you prefer to buy fancy underwear because it feels more luxurious. Maybe you have no interest in working with little seams and small pieces. Maybe you’d just rather spend your time on sewing coats. Those reasons and feeling are totally valid.
But other times, we tell ourselves that we’re not interested in learning something because it just seems too big or overwhelming. Maybe we’re afraid of sucking at it for a while, which we inevitably will. But instead of admitting that, we just tell a little story to ourselves about how we really don’t want to learn about it.
Personally, I think we lie to ourselves a lot about what we can and can’t do.
What’s something (sewing related or not) that you have put into your mental “I don’t care enough” box? Are there any that you suspect are there for different reasons?