Hot on the heels of Valentine’s Day, let’s talk about sex appeal in our clothing!
Recently, Caitlin has been digging deep into your responses to the survey we ran a while back. One of the themes she noticed when we asked about your motivation and goals for sewing your clothing was that some of you specifically wanted to feel attractive, beautiful, or desirable.
On its face, this makes a lot of sense. Don’t most of us want to feel attractive to others? And as sewers, don’t we have the unique opportunity to make ourselves into whatever image we want, through the clothes we make?
On the other hand, I can’t say that I consciously think about ways I can appear more attractive to others. Instead, I’ve developed my own taste, and I dress (and make clothes) to suit that. And of course that factors in what other people find attractive, because I don’t live in a vacuum.
But rarely do I ever think, “I’ll wear this because my partner finds it attractive” (sorry honey!). In fact, just yesterday I donated a dress that is very flattering and that I get compliments on all the time, just because I don’t think it’s “me.”
Still, I can admit it: Though I don’t think about it much, I do want to be sexy. That’s because what is sexy to me is a woman with confidence, a woman with a distinct outlook, a woman who is different, a woman with intelligence, and a woman with a little mystery. These are all factors into my own personal taste, for sure.
So, I think there are two questions at play for most of us when we factor sex appeal into our wardrobes: (1) What do you consider sexy? and (2) Do you want to project sexiness personally? And I think that what you consider “sexy” has a big effect on whether you want to project sexiness yourself.
So the question for today is: Is sex appeal a factor in the way you dress? Do you ever think about it, or is it (like me) more of an unconscious thing that affects your overall taste? And what does “sex appeal” really mean to you, in terms of your own personal style?